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Your circumstances, existing agreements, and reasons for taking space matter more than a rule from a blog.",[18,19,21],"h2",{"id":20},"ask-what-you-want-the-greeting-to-do","Ask what you want the greeting to do",[11,23,24],{},"Would you be content with no response? Are you hoping the message restarts a conversation? Would a brief “thanks” feel harder than silence?",[11,26,27],{},"These questions are not a test you have to pass. They help separate a simple greeting from the larger wish it might carry. If you are hoping for a different relationship, let the page say that plainly.",[18,29,31],{"id":30},"write-a-birthday-letter-that-stays-with-you","Write a birthday letter that stays with you",[11,33,34],{},"Choose one or two of these lines:",[36,37,38,42,45,48,51],"ul",{},[39,40,41],"li",{},"“On your birthday, the memory that comes back is…”",[39,43,44],{},"“The part of the day I used to look forward to was…”",[39,46,47],{},"“What I wish for you, without needing to tell you, is…”",[39,49,50],{},"“What I need for myself today is…”",[39,52,53],{},"“The reason I chose distance still matters because…”",[11,55,56],{},"You can write something warm and still keep your boundary. You can feel angry and choose not to describe every hurt. 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